So is your relationship out of the charming phase, as in is it long since you both are together? Don't worry I ain't invading your privacy, it's a question I want all of us to find answers for making our lives better.
As relationships get older, couples start getting comfortable with each other and in that comfort zone, the issues come to life! By issues I mean things, small and big, that affect our marriage. Getting comfortable with each other means getting lesser and lesser careful about each other. Wait a second, don't jump to conclusions so early, i never mean careless in its real meaning! By being careless, here, I mean that once we know that we are with our loved ones, that now we are together there is nothing that can change this fact, in fact we start believing that there is nothing that can harm our marriage. We become careless in a sense that we stop focusing on things that we earlier practiced to get our lovers into our lives, into a relationship as beautiful as marriage.
For going deeper into this, let's focus on how and in what ways we were different prior to tying the sacred knot?
In the phase where we tried attracting each other, we made sure to present the best of ourselves! from looking good, to behaving in the most decent manner possible, from focusing on our careers to doing everything that pleased the once we love, each of us in that phase tried our best attain all the qualities that our lover likes and which will make them love us even more. With time and with marriage, when we consider this bond to be so strong and so sacred that it can never be damage, we with our carelessness start damaging it ourselves, and many of us just loose the very essence of love from our marriage.
Like all people I too go through ups and downs in my married life, so I thought I'll start doing things step by step that will rejuvenate my marriage and by sharing it with you I'm pretty sure my readers' relationship will also regain the spark and these simple spices will add more taste to the recipes of our marriages/relationships!
Here's the first thing that I'll change and let's see how it improves my relationship:
A SIMPLE PHONE CALL
How many of us still call our partners just to say Hi or just to tell them the 10000th time that we love them? I know many of us still do this on our anniversaries or may be birthdays, but do we still do this as frequently as we did this in the charming phase? Lets see why most of us call our significant others now. We call our husbands to ask when they'll be home, or is the last night's plan still on, or maybe to ask them to get the dresses from dry cleaners on way back to home. while the husbands usually call to ask what they'll be getting for dinner or may be just to know if the wives need anything so that they can get it while coming to home.
Though this shows our affection for each other in its unique way, yet it lacks the affection that's needed to revive the spark in our relationship.
So let's all of us add a simple phone call in our routines. From tomorrow let's make it a must to call our partner just to say Hi or just to let them know in a simple and clearer way that we still love them as we loved them in the beginning and that they still are as important and dear to us as they were when we first met!
After practicing this small change, I'll surely be sharing the results with you all, you too feel free to write your experience in the comments box and let us all know how it changed things for you so that it keeps all of us motivated!
"Toast to the new, better and happier version of our old lives!"
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