For many letting go is the only option. To resolve an issue at any point of our lives when we know there aren't many options, we make ourselves believe that its now the time to move on without going any further into the details of the issue. Whether it be a loved one cheating on you, or it be a failure in your plans, someone's death or may be someone's absence from our lives. Losing confidence that we can't make things better with all the facts and truths in our haands we end up accepting the scenario as it is. Because we know they somewhere in the mind our loved ones have already given a reason to our sufferings.
Like when my mother passed away I questioned myself why did it happen to me? Why couldn't she recover from her illness like others usually do? But in the end and even now what I do to make myself better is that I raise an argument with in that she's better off dead. She might have had a bad life ahead, she would have been bed-ridden or worse of she was alive. Yet I am not satisfied because I know things could also be different than this.
There are those too who cheat on their spouse, they might be sorry later on but they know they have damaged the other person a bit too deeply. At many points later in their lives though the guilt would constantly nag them, they'll fail to accept it. On the other hand the victim of the cheating/hurting episode might have accepted the situation and moved on with life yet when alone something, most probably the gut would shout thousands of doubts and reasoning with in the head. No doubt on many such days they still prefer to let it go, on the other hand all this will keep on disturbing them throughout the life.
My point here is that what makes us go through this jeopardy of letting go? Why is it that we stop going deeper into the base of an issue to resolve it and try ending it when still on the surface? I feel its like a person suffers from brain tumor and the doctor keeps him on paracetamol to diminish the pain! Why do we think that our problems will be sorted out by simply letting go without knowing the basis of these problems.
Death of people we are closer to also leave us abandoned and deeply confused. But death makes things complicated as we can't still talk to the person who left us. On the other hand death teaches us a deeper lesson than any of the other relationship hurts. We should learn out of our loved one's death that we must make other relationships in our lives stronger and deeper. we must try not to come to a point where letting go is the only remaining option.
We need to go deeper, talk about the details, know why it happened, accept if we are the culprits and then only we must agree that this had to happen according to our destiny. But blaming destiny with out knowing the reasons to the bad things happening to us will only make us more uneasy and depressed.
So now the next time your significant other hurts you or cheats on you and you both aren't ready to leave each other, just don't let it go. Sit and talk to each other openly and in detail. Realize why you were hurt and then accept each other's weakness that hurt both the parties, then only let it go. Have peace at your heart and the brain too! Just try to add in all the truth in your relationships and diminish all the lies because it's something that'll surely help you live a peaceful life; truth may hurt for a while but lies hurt forever!
Remember there are rights and wrongs in every relationship, people come in your life, people leave you for good and for bad, and some people just leave the world leaving you all alone. The wrongs and rights that we share with these people are what defines our relationship with them. If the wrongs weren't meant to hurt you intentionally, let them them go and if the rights were hurting you in the long run, try to work things out. Because we live our lives once, and we should not only make it perfect for us, we must also try our best to make it memorable for others, as in the end only memories stay behind!
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